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Ep 11 – How To Have A Relationship That Exudes Love And Not Fear

Relationship That Exudes Love

Love Conquers All – Even Fear

Have you ever been in a relationship that you don't feel free to be who you are? This has become an actual segment in today's society. If you were to google this subject you'd get all sorts of answers to conquer the fear that has been holding you at bay.

Symptoms Of A Relationship Ruled By Fear

Without a doubt you probably grew up in a home that was loving and your parents tried to do all they knew how to get you to the adult phase of life. They did this by giving you the good that they found in their parents techniques and then applied other methods from other parents.

This is typically how we learn to become parents. But there's a huge demographic that forgot to give their child the extra dose of security that's needed when we don't feel safe. We all have that inner critic telling us exactly how wrong, stupid, untalented, we are. And the women always seem to fight with the fashion of the day and keeping up their looks.

So this all leads to one thing that we believe is the root of all these things mentioned above.

Fear and Insecurity

These emotions can make a person lash out and do some crazy things from an outsiders perspective. They also do these things to the very people that they love. This all seems like something that isn't very logical to us.

They love us…. yet they hurt us. hmm.

Perhaps these things happen to them because of a few things in their past.

Usually it's a toxic relationship in their past that has scarred them and created these wounds on our emotions.

How To Fix Your Emotions

The first and most important thing to do to fix your emotions is to simply start loving yourself. Realize whose you are and what He says about you.

If you don't love yourself and find it difficult, you may want to check into a meditation that focusses on the very words that God said about you. Here are some examples:

  • I am worthy
  • I am healthy
  • I am strong
  • I am perfect
  • I am forgiven
  • I am loved
  • I am creative
  • I am free

Start saying these to yourself on a daily basis morning and night. Then check back on yourself after a week, 2 weeks, a month.

You'll be amazed!

Have Patience

Next, you'll find that you're probably not that patient with your spouse. Give them the very patience that you would want from them. I like to say that in every action there is a reaction. So start off with the action that will return a reaction that you'd want to receive.

If At First, You Don't Understand

Jess talks about this in episode #4 when she starts to think that Jon is a mindreader and don't we wish that were true for all of us. Life would be so much easier, wouldn't it?

But the best thing to do when you don't think that your spouse understands you or vice versa is to… ASK QUESTIONS! (said in unison).

Think About Others Before Your Needs

This should be a no brainer but it really does seem that more and more people are all in this to win it at the expense of others.

Wow!

That really begs the question, “what do you really get out of this life when you're stomping on others – and your spouse too?”

In all that you do, think about others and how you can serve them best and your needs will be met far above your imagination" ~Jon & Jess Click To Tweet

So, if you're thinking about the things that you want in life, think about the space you're providing for your spouse. Make that space a place for him/her to flourish. They want to be who they are. Maybe that's not the perfect version that you like all the time, but it's who they are.

Don't worry, they will change. It's a given and most of the time they change for the love in their life and for the better.

Until next time…

Make your relationship a love filled one full of explosive love!

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Ep 4 – 3 Communication Tips To Enrich Your Relationship

communication tips

For those that want a better relationship, communication is a focal point that needs attention.

Here are 3 Communication Tips To Enrich Your Relationship

Show notes


Listen To Understand

I've heard so many people, now that we are in the holidays interrupt and speak what THEY wanted to get across instead of just listening to get understanding.

We have to remember that when we are communicating its a two-way street and if you're not allowing the other person to do his/her fair share of talking or listening, then you're not communicating. Instead, this is a type of communication that goes against every fiber of great communication. In the IT world, we would call that a DDoS attack. Translated this stands for Denial of service attack or the ping of death.

The point of this type of communication is to overwhelm and cause harm to the listening party.

When you allow the other party to respond and you're listening to understand, you make them feel worthy, appreciated and more willing to talk to you again in the same manner.

In the podcast, we mention Episode #2; where we talk about building each other up.

Don't Let The Sun Go Down On Your Anger

There's a bible verse that backs this one up.

25 Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. 26 ?In your anger do not sin?[a]: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold.

Ephesians 4:25-27

So why would we want to avoid anger before we go to sleep?

One train of thought is that when we are sleeping, our subconscious mind is not sleeping. In fact, our subconscious mind never sleeps.

if we are to be vigilant about improving our lives and relationships, we need to be thinking on things that are good.

8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Phillipians 4:8

Talk To Each Other During The Day

Many times we get wrapped up in our day and forget that we have a partner working hard as well to bring in the finances we need to live and enjoy our lives.

What would it mean to your spouse if you were to just send a simple text to them?

Do you ever think to call on a break or at lunchtime?

Now, these are just a couple of simple little things that can really turn around a day for your spouse. Use your imagination and be creative on how you can improve your partner's day.

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