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3 Must Have Ingredients In The Relationship Recipe

How to Put Together The Relationship Recipe

In today's post, we are discussing the 3 must have ingredients in the relationship recipe.

Ingredient #1 – Communication

The First ingredient is communication. We feel like it's a topic that gets pushed under the rug so often but true communication is rewarding and when the communication is complete, it leaves you with a feeling of love when done correctly.

There are some keys to communication that make a huge difference. As stated by the Huffington Post, never arguing is not something to brag about. If you never argue, you have to ask yourself if you are truly growing in your relationship. If you're not growing then your relationship is going in the opposite direction and needs to have intervention to get it back to a growing state.

Ingredient #2 – Boundaries

We mentioned this ingredient of boundaries in the video above but there is so much more to it than what we spoke about.

The fact that boundaries are not that well known has really given us the opportunity to educate people about them and how they can solve so many relationship issues. There are some must have ingredients that even the wealthy top 1% of the population need to follow. Boundaries is probably the most abused ingredient.

Ingredient #3 – Love

Just like in our video, we spoke about how LOVE is God and God is Love. They are one and the same. So when we add God into the relationship we are ultimately adding the greatest ingredient of all to our relationship.

As relationships go, we tend to adjust to what is presented to our immediate surroundings. This is a good thing and a bad thing.

If we are in the present moment, we are in the protection of God. But, when we have negative feelings or speak negativity, we are taking the love that God is out of our situation – leaving an open doorway for the enemy to attack our relationship.

Baking Instructions

As we presented this information to you as a recipe, we would like you to be the chef and put it all together in your relationship.

The best way to do this is to have a plan and a goal. Know what you want to do and go after it. Make one goal this week to accomplish. Focus on it and know in your heart that it's complete.

For more strategies about building a relationship that shows explosive love, download our ebook, “7 Simple Secrets…”

Healthy Marriage Relationship – Are They A Thing Of The Past?!

When we are children, we dream of the day we can start our own family, to live the storybook dream of a marriage with 2.5 kids, a white picket fenced home, in suburbia. Today, that dream has diminished and has almost been stolen from us. To be in a healthy marriage relationship with even one child and still being happy is a miracle to see in today?s society.

The answer to having a marriage that is both healthy and grows is not a short answer.? To be quite honest, that answer is very elusive for most.? Now, I have some basic tips that could guide you in having a healthy marriage.

The best way that I know is to find yourself a church and involve yourself with the people there. Share stories, and engage yourself with them.
Along the same lines as above. Trust God to help you in times of trouble in your marriage. He is faithful and will help you because HE LOVES YOU!
If your marriage is on the rocky side of things, it?s always good to have friends to call or a support group to be a part of in order to bounce things off of them.
Arguing is best done in a discussion type manner where people actually listen to each other. Much too often, a disagreement can turn into a shouting match of wills. This always leads to more resentment of the other person.
NEVER go to bed angry with your spouse.

Are You Ready For A Healthy Marriage Relationship?

There are some basic tips on how to have a healthy marriage relationship and not to end up in the divorce courts. We are human and before you know it, we are arguing into the night and then you wake up mad. but do this the best you can and you will avoid many health issues that stem from stress, such as Cancer.

There are plenty of?other resources on relationships?that you can follow, and if you?re looking for someone to enter into a marriage, you should consider some premarital counseling.? Counseling will help you in focusing both of your goals and that will give you longevity in your marriage.? After all, we all want a LIFELONG, healthy marriage relationship!

One thing that I always am looking for in a relationship is harmony in our personalities.? Marriage is a decision that requires much thought. Beyond the thought is where things tend to fall off. Relationships need to have action that has been carefully thought through so that it will benefit the relationship rather than be a detriment.

The last part of this equation is this. It doesn't matter if you get those flowers for your wife or that you get that new tool chest for your hubby. In fact, it really doesn't matter if you are poor or rich.

The biggest reason for divorce is that true attention to each other?is lacking. Click To Tweet

We believe that relationships are the main reason we are here. Having a healthy marriage relationship is the pinnacle of all relationships. So it's time to learn how to get this amazing, explosive love into your home.

We have a PDF that you can download and get started with learning the craft of growing your relationship.

7 Simple Secrets eBook

This is definitely the place we recommend you start off. It's the basis of a relationship that we want to build off of in your knowledge.

EP 39 – How to Stick Together in Adversity

5 STRATEGIES TO COPE WITH ADVERSITY SURROUNDING YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Sticking Together In Adversity…

Adversity can make or break a couple if they let it.

You've heard stories and seen movies about couples that go through adversity like caring for a sick family member over a long period of time or financial struggles and other seemingly insurmountable odds. The struggle was too much and they split up. Essentially, they were not able to stick together in adversity.

We?ve also heard opposite stories of couples banding together and becoming stronger as they weather the storm together.

Episode 39 – SHOW NOTES

What is the difference? What is their secret?

Relationship with God – When we rely on God, we don't have to shoulder the burden alone and feel the intense weight of it. It is important that we look to the One greater than ourselves.
Look outward – When we go through struggle it's tempting to look inward and think about how difficult times are and what we don't have. In those times, we need to remember to look outward and see that others are going through a hard time, too. God will often ask us to help someone else when we are going through something difficult because he knows there is healing in it for us.
Treat each other with kindness – Pain and discomfort often bring out the worst in our attitudes. It's during times like this that we need to take a step back and have more patience with our loved ones, particularly or partners. It can be tempting to lash out with our words in a space that feels safe, but we need to remember that our significant other is most likely hurting as well and treat them with patience and kindness.
Communication – We need to talk with our partners regularly to maintain an understanding of what we are feeling and what we need. Reach out and ask for help when necessary. Communication helps squelch added struggles that arise from lack of talking to each other.
Equally yoked – Shoulder the burdens of the struggle together. Better yet, throw the burden on God?s shoulders and follow him together with your partner. God has the perfect plan for your life.

Final Thoughts

If you're going to stick together through adversity in your relationship or marriage, you will need to be following these tips -especially when it comes to being equally yoked.

What are some other strategies you have used that have helped you and your partner stick together during a struggle? Please leave a note in the comments below. Your message could help another couple in need.

Remember to download our video series From Rocky to Rock Steady.

Why You Aren’t Happy In Your Relationship

Jon and Jess the Relationship Revivalists uncover the missing ingredient to happiness. We know that there are things we can tolerate in a relationship until they get fixed but there has to be a degree of being happy in your relationship for these things to be tolerated.

So often we look for happiness in our significant other, but that doesn't work for the long-term. Being happy in your relationship doesn't mean that you are madly in love physically because the physical part can fade. The part that makes us happy with our spouse is when we can share struggles with each other and know that there will be a team work to help each other be better than the previous day.

So when we are a team (a united front), there's a security in that very front that speaks of strength and power. These traits come from God, The Father. This is the conclusion that will give you a relationship rooted in abundance in all areas of life. So we challenge you to find your happiness in God first.

Before we even are in a #relationship, we really need to cultivate that amazing relationship that we can have with our heavenly Father. #GodFirst Click To Tweet

Relationship From The Very Beginning

Jon and Jess look back to Adam and Eve in Genesis, and discover a timely mistake. First off, Adam and Eve both did something that was against what God, the Father, instructed them not to do. They did things out of fear, lack or perhaps envy.

Not love.

This is a clue that we can apply to our relationships.

That missing ingredient to happiness could be doing things that show

7 SECRETS TO SUSTAINING A LONG, LASTING, LOVING RELATIONSHIP

Some notes about Gods character:

He loves to take what we trust him with and work it out.
He watches over us closely.
He protects us.
He is not containable.
He is love, peace, and joy. He doesn't just give these, he is.
He is the author of relationship.
We learn how to have good relationships from our relationship with him.
He is our source.

These very characters are the traits that we aim to be in our every day living. Could it be that Jesus really did show us exactly how to have a successful relationship? In other words, Jesus modeled to us what a successful relationship truly is no matter when someone lived.

In conclusion, Jon and Jess talk about a reminder that the (Nehemiah 8:10).

The #joy of the Lord is our strength. #Nehemiah #Laugh Click To Tweet

Joy is an important must-have to carry on.
Jon & Jess

Scriptures mentioned in this podcast:

Lastly, Jon and Jess allude to an exciting project they have been working on so look for more news to come.

Finding The God Purposed Relationship

Does God have control over all the details?

Have you found the ultimate God purposed relationship? if not, are you still looking? Perhaps you are in a relationship but not quite ready for all in commitment with your relationship.

There are 2 trains of thought that we hear all the time about what God does for us. Most of the time if it fits into our way of doing things that is the story we believe.

In today's podcast, we decided to talk about these 2 sides of the story and how only one of them makes the most sense. It's that God purposed relationship that we should all be desiring.

The story that says God isn't in control of the details

Just like the title says above, we hear all the time that God isn't in control of our destiny. The defense that is offered is that God created us with free will.

That's true to a point…

But when you know the character of God, you also know that that very free will has to do with our decisions to walk away from what God has done for us already – making things much more difficult to live a prosperous life as stated in the new testament by Jesus.

The scripture to back up the story of God having control

Now if you're looking to have a relationship that gives glory to God, you know that there is at least one verse in the bible that will support God having control over the relationships you have.

Jeremiah 29:11 says…

For I know the plans I have for you. Plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Click To Tweet

God Purposed Relationship woven into His Plans

This very verse states that He already knows the plans He has for you. Meaning he loves you so much that He's taken a vested interest in your future. His plans are not to harm you but to prosper you. It means there are boundaries in which He is allowed to bless you. If you go off and do something out of what boundaries he set forth for everyone, he can't bless you.

So, does he have control over the details in your life?

I'd say an emphatic, YES!

Just stay under his covering in all things you do and you'll get that God purposed relationship you desire.

Show Notes – Finding The God Purposed Relationship

Talking about being equally yoked in relationship means so much. it's a stress reliever because you know that you are both believing the same thing and also walking out those beliefs.

What if God had someone else in mind for me but I'm already married? (click play above to hear what the answer to this is)

Ep 35 – Are You Experiencing A Love Or Fear-Based Relationship?

Love or Fear-Based Relationship: Which One Are You In?

There are only 2 ways about every life on this planet, and it's either one of two options. The options are pretty simple and clear – love or fear-based relationship.

That's how we can simplify all of our actions and reactions.

So what is it about a fear-based relationship that will clue you into what's happening in your relationship?

In today's podcast, we are discussing just that. Are you experiencing love or fear-based relationship?

Are you consuming things that you shouldn't be? #Sex, #Drugs, #RockNRoll? Let's clear things up here on the rock n roll. There's good rock and there's just pure satanic rock.

These things that are done out of wedlock can harm your mindset and your spirit. So not to push religious practices on you, but God set things up for us to be in ONE relationship with our spouse and to commit to them for life.

Love Traits In Relationship

If you're in a relationship that you're not quite sure what is going on and the question comes up about your relationship about having a love or fear-based relationship, perhaps you should take a step back and look at things from the outside in, rather than the inside out.

In this episode, Jess describes a time when Jon did something from the bottom of his heart to show love to her. The beauty of this is that it was spontaneous and unexpected.

Remember the times you felt the most special when you asked God for something? Was it when he gave you that winning number in the lottery? or was it the time that he remembered to do those few details that you didn't quite know how they would get done?

…But He did them for you without asking, knowing you would be overjoyed that they got done.

That's when you feel the most cared for and you are off the charts happy.

We found a post that talks about love and fear-based relationships and the title just came out and says it. The title of the blog post is “Love And Fear Do Not Co-Exist P.S. I Love You!“

Ep 34 – How to Change Your Partner

It's easy to see from our own eyes that someone needs to change to become a better person. That's why we are delving into a discussion about how to change your partner.

Show Notes

Jon and Jess explore the topic of how to change your partner.

Manipulation tactics don?t work for the long term.

The answer may seem counter-intuitive. #changeyourpartner Click To Tweet

The only way you can change the course of your relationship is to work on changing yourself, foregiveness, and trust in the Lord.

God says clearly that we have to work on ourselves and our own issues before we can help our partner with their issues.

Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother?s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?
Matt. 7:3 NIV

If we don?t work on our mindset, we are in jeopardy of projecting our issues onto our partner.

Jon and Jess discuss the importance of forgiveness and trusting in the Lord when it comes to our relationships.

My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me.
John 10:27 NIV