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How To Have A Joyful And Fulfilling Relationship

Many relationships start off with attraction in some way. Whether you're attracted to personality or physical aspects, it all starts there. That's when knowledge stops for most people about having a joyful and fulfilling relationship.

There must be some know-how that will guide you to that joyful relationship because if there isn't any sort of guide, you're not going to be very fulfilled in your relationship.

Show Notes

How to have a joyful and fulfilling relationship.

Episode 41 is a must listen if you haven't already.

The first step to having a healthy relationship is being a united front with your partner. This is the one strategy you can use to help safeguard your relationship while you work on everything else.

Using this strategy or not can make or break your relationship. We have seen relationships flourish when they implement this strategy. Unfortunately, we have also seen relationships end because they didn?t commit to being a united front together.

It is something most of us didn?t grow up having modeled for us by our parents. Becoming a united front is possible to learn and to get good at. Just like anything in life, it just takes a bit of time and practice to become an everyday part of your relationship.

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.? Part of becoming one flesh is becoming a united front with your significant other.
Genesis 2:24 (NKJV)

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What does being a united front look like?

1. It is a commitment to keeping you, your significant other, and God in the center of your relationship, no one else gets to be in that sacred place.

2. It looks like communicating and agreeing on topics that are important to your relationship, including boundaries.

3. It works best when someone can ask you or your significant other a question and they get the same answer with the same boundary.

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EP 41 – How Memories Can Make or Break a Relationship

Making New Memories

In this podcast, Jon and Jess explore the topic of making new memories.

Jon shares how his second wife passed away from cancer. Through this painful tragedy, Jon focused on helping others and healing.

One thing Jon did on his path to emotional healing was to make new memories. The pain from the past could have easily crept into his life and made a permanent home which would either make or break relationship with God, a future mate, or any family and friends. So, Jon continued to create new memories when he met Jess.

Jon and Jess discuss the freedom of making new memories brings. Instead of being boxed in by fear and grief, throughout their relationship, he invited Jess to go to locations with him where he and his previous wife went.

Here are a few things to know about making new memories. Work this into your life naturally. When you find you are about to make a new memory, notice that and state out loud that you are making a new memory with your partner or yourself. The more you do this, the more you create a mindset of freedom and healing.

God doesn't erase our memories. He heals the pain and can make the painful memories seem dim and distant. He wants us to keep moving forward in faith with his help. Revelation 21:5 suggests this. Again, keep making more memories and begin to stop reflecting on the past. This is where fear comes in when we look at the past. Focusing on the past can definitely put a strain on a relationship. When we are interacting with each other focus on the now. This strategy alone will help you be more successful in relationship when we are faced with a make or break relationship moment.

With God's help, we can believe that the best is yet to come. We can look forward to the future when we choose to stay on the path God has prepared for us. Jon references

Psalm 55:22 (NKJV), "Cast your burden on the Lord, and he shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved." Click To Tweet

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The One Thing That Makes or Breaks A Relationship -Episode 27

When you think about all the relationships that you have had over the course of your lifetime, what is the one constant that you can think of off the top of your head?

Some people will say that they loved with abandon. Others, would say they wish they had done things differently and perhaps that's where we need to focus on so that there are less and less people with these sort of regrets.

In this episode, we talk about the one thing that makes or breaks relationships. It's a biggie too!

Show Notes / Resources

Episode 4 is one of the keys to having a great relationship.

Episode 3 which is completely about having peace in your home to thrive and grow your relationship.

Ep 23 – Facing Your Fears

It happens in every relationship that is doing great. There's a thought of “I don't feel like I'm #1 in his/her life”. Why do these thoughts come in to our mind and what can we do about them to either eliminate or drastically diminish them?

In today's post, we are going to talk about why those thoughts come into our thought life and give you some strategies to get rid of them.

These strategies are not instantaneous but if you work at it you will see success and that's what we like to see. Successful and growing realtionships.

A successful relationship is a growing relationship with no insecure or fearful thoughts. Click To Tweet

Now, if you're not married there are many other thoughts that might be entering into your thought life. If you've been around the sun a few times, you may have heard that fear just stands for False Evidence Appearing Real. There are plenty more acronyms about this word that all stand true.

What we want to do with this is to get your mind to believe this so that it's stronger and able to fend off those thoughts that might come into your head giving you doubt or fear that something negative is going to happen to your relationship.

First we need to read what God says about who we are and what his intensions are towards us.

God says things in his Word that blatantly state that

HE LOVES US
We are more than conquerors
He cares for us
He protects us

So if He says these strong things about us, we can believe these things about us. The best part is that when we believe these things our mindset will no longer believe the bad things that just pop up in our heads from out of nowhere.

When you study God's word and repeatedly get the word in your heart, you eventually become that word. In other words, you're able to face fear and tell it where to go because of the belief you have built up in your heart.

Ep 22 – My Spouse Does not Fulfill My Needs Anymore

my spouse doesn't fulfill my needs anymore

Every relationship has those times where you just don't feel like you're invigorated with love for your spouse. If you just don't see eye to eye and you find yourself saying my relationship does not fulfill my needs anymore…

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But if you're going to keep going and push through, you will need to have some strategies to get through these times that can be torment on your relationship. So here's what you can do to solve the “My spouse doesn't fulfill my needs anymore” issue.

Show Notes for Episode 22

Problem #1 – Looking Inward to round out your needs

Biggest problem is that you're looking inward when you need to be looking outwards to help out your spouse. IF you find yourself getting sad or depressed – that's a key that you're looking inwards.

In order to love someone you have to look at your spouse and appreciate them, love them, spoil them. Remember, LOVE is not just given, you have to work for it. The greater the love the more work that has been done for it.

Love is not just given, you have to work for it. The greater the #love, the more work that has been done for it. Click To Tweet

Problem #2 – Growing In Your Relationship

Most of the time, when we have problems with our life partner, we tend to look through the lens of what they have done for you lately.

Remember that Janet Jackson song… What have you done for me lately?

Well, it's kinda like that.

So what is it that cures this ailment in our relationship?

It's basically boiled down to maturity. We either learn how to deal with it on our own or we reach out to people that have been through the struggles and pains of a relationship. Those are the people that are well worth your money and time to get answers.

Resolution #1 – Change Your Perspective

When the going gets tough, the tough get going.
nobody left a name – they ran outta town

What does that mean to us as it applies to our relationship? Simply put it means that we learn from our mistakes so that we do not have to run from our problems.

Yes, that quote means when things get tough, the tough generally head out of town so that they don't have to deal with the tough problems.

We take on a lot of tough problems and when we just don't have it to give, we turn to God. God is our creator and He will change your heart to be the best partner anyone has ever had. Why not make it your partners experience rather than starting all over with the same problems.

Resolution #2 – Serve One Another

Instead of thinking about why your partner no longer meets the needs of your standards. Flip this around to an attitude of service. You are both in life together to help each other, add to the experience of life for one another. So something nice for your spouse as a lover would do things to and for each other.

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If you're looking for more podcast to listen to on our blog, we suggest starting here with our first podcast

Ep 21 – The Best Ways to Resolve Important Family Conflicts

This episode will go through the best ways to resolve important family conflicts every time with success.

When a couple gets together and are madly in love, it seems like the ability to make important decisions tend to slip away because of the love struck mindset we all tend to have in the beginning.

Show Notes

Best Way to Resolve Important Family Conflicts

Communication is always the best way to resolve your conflicts even if it leads to more conflicts because you're telling the truth. Just know that eventually, the truth will resolve any discord in a marriage or relationship.

Scenarios that may happen when disagreement happens.

One person caves and goes with the other persons suggestion
One person pushes the issue and railroads the issue
Two interests that disagree should have a way to agree
Go to God to get resolution, individually

Earnestly seek the answer to the issue by going to God. God will always agree with Himself and if you're both going to God, then you'll come back with the same answer.

How to tell you have the word from God and to stand with God's word.

Pray for your partner to get the word from God
Be a team when working out issues in the family
Truly go into the spirit to get your answer rather than looking with your eyes and feelings.
Give it completely to the Lord and don't take it back.

Going to God as your mediator is the best way to get the best answer and resolution to the issue you may be having Click To Tweet

Some other resources that will help you with the best ways to resolve family conflict

Using Your Kingly Authority – Episode 17

The power of our words nobody knows. But one thing is for sure, and that is that this power is much greater than we have ever known. Which is why its' imperative that you start using your kingly authority in your relationship.

There's no question that we can change lives with our words by speaking life or death to others and even yourself. And yet, we seem to have forgotten that making an effort to encourage one another is the highest form of being a leader.

We hope that you are listening here or on your favorite podcasting app. This is a 2 part series and you can find the 2nd part here

Your words are very important because we are made in Christs image. We believe that there are things that do not happen because of belief levels. For instance, you calling out someone to become an elephant. That won't happen and any other extreme stuff like that – because the person saying the words doesn't believe the words spoken.

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The fact that we are nowhere near using the kingly authority that God has given us means we have a road ahead of us to accomplish what God has placed in us.

When you start using the kingly authority that God has given us, you'll start seeing things change that you set in motion and let God finish. This is huge and think about what you can do for your relationship when you learn these concepts.

We've talked about some of the basics to having a relationship that others will quite honestly be saying, “how do you have such a loving, lasting, and explosive love sort of relationship?”.

You'll get to send them this post and tell them that it's advice based on God's word because He is the author of relationship. Life is so much easier when you just follow in His footsteps!