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Make Your Marriage Long Lasting

Loving Your Marriage
For The Long Term

There have been many who have asked the question, “Can a marriage last forever?” Well, there is a way to make your marriage long lasting.

So, To that question, we emphatically say YES!

The biggest problem that has hit our culture here in America and around the world is we get into a marriage or relationship for purely selfish reasons. Never are we completely told how to grow a relationship because it's supposed to be instinctual.

So in that spirit of instinctually selfish ways, we'd like to go against the grain a bit and give you some ideas on how to make your marriage long lasting and fruitful. A marriage that you want to return to each and every day for the rest of both of your lives.

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Top 10 Ways To Make Your Marriage Long Lasting

Take your spouse on a ride that they will never forget.
Do something special on a regular basis.
Engage in lots of eye gazing
Learn more about your spouse likes in the bedroom.
Show what you like in a fun and loving manner
Do something you wouldn't normally do.
Do something great for a family member of your spouse
Cherish the loving moments and memories together
Choose each other each and every day
Try something new and exciting together

These tips will definitely help you in your marriage. We have found that most of the time, marriages fall apart because they aren't doing ANY of theses to keep the relationship going.

Relationships are not a walk in the part but rather lots of planning, loving, laughing, arguing your way, forgiving, and loving again.

So do not get discouraged. Your marriage will only fail if you let it fail.

One last tip to help you grow your marriage…

Your #relationship is a reflection of you. If you want it to change, #change yourself first. Click To Tweet

We sincerely hope this helps you grow your marriage and relationship in the coming years you spend together.

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Ep 11 – How To Have A Relationship That Exudes Love And Not Fear

Love Conquers All – Even Fear

Have you ever been in a relationship that you don't feel free to be who you are? This has become an actual segment in today's society. If you were to google this subject you'd get all sorts of answers to conquer the fear that has been holding you at bay.

Symptoms Of A Relationship Ruled By Fear

Without a doubt you probably grew up in a home that was loving and your parents tried to do all they knew how to get you to the adult phase of life. They did this by giving you the good that they found in their parents techniques and then applied other methods from other parents.

This is typically how we learn to become parents. But there's a huge demographic that forgot to give their child the extra dose of security that's needed when we don't feel safe. We all have that inner critic telling us exactly how wrong, stupid, untalented, we are. And the women always seem to fight with the fashion of the day and keeping up their looks.

So this all leads to one thing that we believe is the root of all these things mentioned above.

Fear and Insecurity

These emotions can make a person lash out and do some crazy things from an outsiders perspective. They also do these things to the very people that they love. This all seems like something that isn't very logical to us.

They love us…. yet they hurt us. hmm.

Perhaps these things happen to them because of a few things in their past.

Usually it's a toxic relationship in their past that has scarred them and created these wounds on our emotions.

How To Fix Your Emotions

The first and most important thing to do to fix your emotions is to simply start loving yourself. Realize whose you are and what He says about you.

If you don't love yourself and find it difficult, you may want to check into a meditation that focusses on the very words that God said about you. Here are some examples:

I am worthy
I am healthy
I am strong
I am perfect
I am forgiven
I am loved
I am creative
I am free

Start saying these to yourself on a daily basis morning and night. Then check back on yourself after a week, 2 weeks, a month.

You'll be amazed!

Have Patience

Next, you'll find that you're probably not that patient with your spouse. Give them the very patience that you would want from them. I like to say that in every action there is a reaction. So start off with the action that will return a reaction that you'd want to receive.

If At First, You Don't Understand

Jess talks about this in episode #4 when she starts to think that Jon is a mindreader and don't we wish that were true for all of us. Life would be so much easier, wouldn't it?

But the best thing to do when you don't think that your spouse understands you or vice versa is to… ASK QUESTIONS! (said in unison).

Think About Others Before Your Needs

This should be a no brainer but it really does seem that more and more people are all in this to win it at the expense of others.

Wow!

That really begs the question, “what do you really get out of this life when you're stomping on others – and your spouse too?”

In all that you do, think about others and how you can serve them best and your needs will be met far above your imagination" ~Jon & Jess Click To Tweet

So, if you're thinking about the things that you want in life, think about the space you're providing for your spouse. Make that space a place for him/her to flourish. They want to be who they are. Maybe that's not the perfect version that you like all the time, but it's who they are.

Don't worry, they will change. It's a given and most of the time they change for the love in their life and for the better.

Until next time…

Make your relationship a love filled one full of explosive love!

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7 Simple Ways To Earn Respect From Your Wife

Earn Respect Biblically

It's been said many times over in the bible that all women want is to be loved in a relationship, and all men want is to be respected in a relationship. The Bible puts it this way:

In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. Ephesians 5:2 #Marriage #Love Click To Tweet

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The relational differences have been an ongoing issue since the beginning of time. How to earn respect from your wife is all about communication. Getting into a fight or even a disagreement is going to happen. It's really what you do afterward that decides if you're in a healthy relationship or not.

7 ways to earn respect from your wife!

However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Ephesians 5:33 #marriage #love Click To Tweet

Treat her with respect – do what you can to make sure your wife knows and feels loved. If you think there is a doubt in her mind about feeling loved, then you probably should listen to your prompting and say/do something to/for her.
Never demand respect from her – respect is a two-way road and to get the respect you want from her, you have to essentially go about it in a way that doesn?t berate, bully, or belittle her. You know? be nice, loving, caring, attentive, and all the rest of those good adverbs. Earn respect from her, don?t take it.
Put people ahead of yourself, including her on a regular basis – That?s something that really makes her feel loved and special. When they feel that they are special they will begin to respect you. Notice, that when a leader exalts himself, they usually get rebellion in return. When they put other people first, they get love from those he/she leads. In turn they will follow that leader for as long as that leader treats his people in that manner.
Be a servant first, a leader next – this point is driven home because respect is all about serving people. Look at how Jesus did it. He served people, He healed them, and made them feel loved. There are many parallels to the husband/wife relationship with Jesus and the church as well.
Follow through on ALL of your promises ? When (not if) you make a promise, it is your duty to follow through and make sure the person you promised can trust you. Trust is another part of respect.
Don't be lazy around the house – It speaks volumes to your partner in life, your mate, your wife for life when you can make time to help out around the house. Not just doing things outside or in the garage either. If you have kids, spend time with them. Head up chores on the day your family does chores. If you are willing and able to do this step ? you are on your way to mastering how to earn respect from your wife.
Volunteer – This is the cherry on the top, but still important. This could be as little as calling people up to organize a night out for the adults. You could be an encouragement to someone who needs it. After all, we all need to be encouraged at one point or another. It?s just our human nature and how God made us to feel loved and needed.

If you can consistently do these seven steps to earning respect from your wife for 30 days, then you are on your way to making a habit that will give you the comfort of knowing you are mastering how to earn respect from your wife!

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You've heard that it takes 21 days to create a habit. According to Dr. Leaf, it takes 3 cycles of 21 days to really create a habit that will not fade away.

Does Your Relationship Practice These Effective Tips?

In order to start, all you have to do is to have the thought to start. But that's not where this should stop. Keep going and make a mental effort to follow through with your efforts.

A great movie to watch that demonstrates these simple steps is called “Fireproof“

Earn Respect One Thought At a Time

Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.

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