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Why You Aren’t Happy In Your Relationship

Jon and Jess the Relationship Revivalists uncover the missing ingredient to happiness. We know that there are things we can tolerate in a relationship until they get fixed but there has to be a degree of being happy in your relationship for these things to be tolerated.

So often we look for happiness in our significant other, but that doesn't work for the long-term. Being happy in your relationship doesn't mean that you are madly in love physically because the physical part can fade. The part that makes us happy with our spouse is when we can share struggles with each other and know that there will be a team work to help each other be better than the previous day.

So when we are a team (a united front), there's a security in that very front that speaks of strength and power. These traits come from God, The Father. This is the conclusion that will give you a relationship rooted in abundance in all areas of life. So we challenge you to find your happiness in God first.

Before we even are in a #relationship, we really need to cultivate that amazing relationship that we can have with our heavenly Father. #GodFirst Click To Tweet

Relationship From The Very Beginning

Jon and Jess look back to Adam and Eve in Genesis, and discover a timely mistake. First off, Adam and Eve both did something that was against what God, the Father, instructed them not to do. They did things out of fear, lack or perhaps envy.

Not love.

This is a clue that we can apply to our relationships.

That missing ingredient to happiness could be doing things that show

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Some notes about Gods character:

He loves to take what we trust him with and work it out.
He watches over us closely.
He protects us.
He is not containable.
He is love, peace, and joy. He doesn't just give these, he is.
He is the author of relationship.
We learn how to have good relationships from our relationship with him.
He is our source.

These very characters are the traits that we aim to be in our every day living. Could it be that Jesus really did show us exactly how to have a successful relationship? In other words, Jesus modeled to us what a successful relationship truly is no matter when someone lived.

In conclusion, Jon and Jess talk about a reminder that the (Nehemiah 8:10).

The #joy of the Lord is our strength. #Nehemiah #Laugh Click To Tweet

Joy is an important must-have to carry on.
Jon & Jess

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Lastly, Jon and Jess allude to an exciting project they have been working on so look for more news to come.

Using Your Kingly Authority – Episode 17

The power of our words nobody knows. But one thing is for sure, and that is that this power is much greater than we have ever known. Which is why its' imperative that you start using your kingly authority in your relationship.

There's no question that we can change lives with our words by speaking life or death to others and even yourself. And yet, we seem to have forgotten that making an effort to encourage one another is the highest form of being a leader.

We hope that you are listening here or on your favorite podcasting app. This is a 2 part series and you can find the 2nd part here

Your words are very important because we are made in Christs image. We believe that there are things that do not happen because of belief levels. For instance, you calling out someone to become an elephant. That won't happen and any other extreme stuff like that – because the person saying the words doesn't believe the words spoken.

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The fact that we are nowhere near using the kingly authority that God has given us means we have a road ahead of us to accomplish what God has placed in us.

When you start using the kingly authority that God has given us, you'll start seeing things change that you set in motion and let God finish. This is huge and think about what you can do for your relationship when you learn these concepts.

We've talked about some of the basics to having a relationship that others will quite honestly be saying, “how do you have such a loving, lasting, and explosive love sort of relationship?”.

You'll get to send them this post and tell them that it's advice based on God's word because He is the author of relationship. Life is so much easier when you just follow in His footsteps!

What Love Says…

So often we are looking at what love is. Love says so many things and if it's not defined correctly, you're not going to be able to know the best feeling in the world.

In this post we are going to be talking about what love says and more importantly, what love says it isn't.

What does #Love say? *where it says things such as, ** Love is #kind** Love is #patient** Love keeps no record of wrong doings 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Click To Tweet

The Bible has so much to say about the word love and it's really a passion of ours to spread as much love, God's Love.

When we are in a relationship it usually starts out as an attraction and those that seem to make it longer change their focus from what can you do for Me to, what can I do for YOU.

Something that comes up on our vows when we get married is the words, “For better or for worse”. It's been common as of late to have your own vows and perhaps those words are not included. But what God meant for us in a relationship is to be life long partners. That means if you want things to work with your spouse, you need to say good bye to selfishness.

Selfish Relationships

Have you ever heard of the phrase, a relationship is a 50/50 endeavor?

Well it's actually not that at all. It's truly a 100/100 relationship. This is where the math gets a little funky but knowing the power behind the math is what is truly amazing.

1+1=2 in every classroom around the world!

But in relationships, 1+1=1. It's because in order to become one as the bible states, you must first be a whole person, not a half to enjoy the benefits of a true relationship.

That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh – Genesis 2:24 NIV Click To Tweet

How Anger Affects What Love Says

Usually when you're not doing well, we tend to look outwards at our situation and try to blame something other than ourselves. We begin to say things like “How could you do that?” or “What were you thinking?”

When you have love on the inside of your heart, you begin to automatically see things in a different light. You are becoming more like God because he is slow to anger. We are all created in His image, so therefore we are slow to anger.

It's very interesting to see what we look like from an “outsiders” perspective. Putting the quotes was just a way to say that we are supposed to take a step back from ourselves and look from the outside-in. When we do that we will see things that perhaps eluded you before. It's then that we can start to fix some of these faults.

Trust Versus Anger

This section seems to be a misnomer. But in all trust there is no anger.

Having said that we should know that when we talk it should be things that we truly mean and those things should not hurt the ones we love. After all love says that you trust each other.

What's The Score?

My wife likes to call this scenario “bringing out the charts and graphs”. It's really a tiresome methodology when you get to thinking about it. What ever happened to just trusting the Lord to take care of the things (AND YOU!) in your life?

Instead, there are those that love to bring those charts and graphs out and remind your spouse that they did this action again after talking about it. When will all these things stop? Is the other shoe going to drop and therefore proving what I thought from the very beginning?

These are some very unloving thoughts and if there's one thing I want to be sure you remember, it's that what you focus on grows.

If you let those thoughts plague your mind, you'll soon begin to drive the point home even further and we all know that isn't a scenario that the receiving end wants to hear nor will it accomplish what it's set out to accomplish.

So, instead try to remember what love says.

I don't keep score
I always believe the best about you
I always trust that you will do your best
I'll do my best to support you as my spouse so that you feel trusted and loved.

Love Is Patient

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7

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Ep 20 – Train Them Up

Life is a series of different patterns that seem to happen on autopilot. But it doesn't have to be like that if you approach your family with a mindset of training to get the best from the very start.

Train them up in the way they should go means that if you have children, your relationship isn't just about you and your spouse. However, it's also not just about your children either.

Children have always and will always imitate what they see in their environment. So be watchful in what you do around your children.

Podcast Show Notes

Train them up in the way they should go

If you have children, your relationship isn't just about you and your spouse.

Children imitate their environment
- They pick up on the subtle nuances
- As children get older, they often choose relationships like the ones that have been modeled to them. Usually through parent interactions.
Help your relationship and your children's future relationships by working on your marriage
Your relationship with your spouse comes first
- Children more content when they know their parents love each other and are happy together.
- Children are more confident when there are clear boundaries and they know what to expect.
  - important to be a united front for your children.

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Ep 18 – Using Your Kingly Authority (Part 2)

As we continue our discussion on using your kingly authority in part 2 of our Podcast, Jon and Jess dig in and find out what it takes to bring a marriage back to a healthy relationship that it once was.

Ep 16 – Anniversary Time

Anniversary Celebration

This week we are practicing what we teach. Time to spend time with each other and celebrate our relationship.

There is always room for more time for love. Love is a decision. When you make the decision to love one another it will turn out great for you.

Sure, love can hurt. Love can give you challenges through the journey. But why focus on the struggles when you know on the other side of the struggle is happy times that are so worth every conversation of disagreement (some call it an argument).

We will be back next week with a full episode. In the mean time, be sure to check out the episodes mentioned in todays podcast.

Episode 3 – United Together in Peace

Episode 4 – 3 Communication tips to enrich your relationship

We look forward to talking to you next week and until then have a wonderful weekend!

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He Said, She Said On Valentine’s Day

We have been looking forward to this talk about valentines for quite a while. It's a time for love and to show each other what and how we think of them.

Jess and I decided to give you a bit of information coming from the guy and girl side of things. So if you're interested in how the opposite sex thinks on this special day, listen in to the podcast.