So often we are looking at what love is. Love says so many things and if it's not defined correctly, you're not going to be able to know the best feeling in the world.
In this post we are going to be talking about what love says and more importantly, what love says it isn't.
What does #Love say? *where it says things such as, ** Love is #kind** Love is #patient** Love keeps no record of wrong doings 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Click To TweetThe Bible has so much to say about the word love and it's really a passion of ours to spread as much love, God's Love.
When we are in a relationship it usually starts out as an attraction and those that seem to make it longer change their focus from what can you do for Me to, what can I do for YOU.
Something that comes up on our vows when we get married is the words, “For better or for worse”. It's been common as of late to have your own vows and perhaps those words are not included. But what God meant for us in a relationship is to be life long partners. That means if you want things to work with your spouse, you need to say good bye to selfishness.
Selfish Relationships
Have you ever heard of the phrase, a relationship is a 50/50 endeavor?
Well it's actually not that at all. It's truly a 100/100 relationship. This is where the math gets a little funky but knowing the power behind the math is what is truly amazing.
1+1=2 in every classroom around the world!
But in relationships, 1+1=1. It's because in order to become one as the bible states, you must first be a whole person, not a half to enjoy the benefits of a true relationship.
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh – Genesis 2:24 NIV Click To TweetHow Anger Affects What Love Says
Usually when you're not doing well, we tend to look outwards at our situation and try to blame something other than ourselves. We begin to say things like “How could you do that?” or “What were you thinking?”
When you have love on the inside of your heart, you begin to automatically see things in a different light. You are becoming more like God because he is slow to anger. We are all created in His image, so therefore we are slow to anger.
It's very interesting to see what we look like from an “outsiders” perspective. Putting the quotes was just a way to say that we are supposed to take a step back from ourselves and look from the outside-in. When we do that we will see things that perhaps eluded you before. It's then that we can start to fix some of these faults.
Trust Versus Anger
This section seems to be a misnomer. But in all trust there is no anger.
Having said that we should know that when we talk it should be things that we truly mean and those things should not hurt the ones we love. After all love says that you trust each other.
What's The Score?
My wife likes to call this scenario “bringing out the charts and graphs”. It's really a tiresome methodology when you get to thinking about it. What ever happened to just trusting the Lord to take care of the things (AND YOU!) in your life?
Instead, there are those that love to bring those charts and graphs out and remind your spouse that they did this action again after talking about it. When will all these things stop? Is the other shoe going to drop and therefore proving what I thought from the very beginning?
These are some very unloving thoughts and if there's one thing I want to be sure you remember, it's that what you focus on grows.
If you let those thoughts plague your mind, you'll soon begin to drive the point home even further and we all know that isn't a scenario that the receiving end wants to hear nor will it accomplish what it's set out to accomplish.
So, instead try to remember what love says.
- I don't keep score
- I always believe the best about you
- I always trust that you will do your best
- I'll do my best to support you as my spouse so that you feel trusted and loved.
Love Is Patient
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
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