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EP 41 – How Memories Can Make or Break a Relationship

Making New Memories

In this podcast, Jon and Jess explore the topic of making new memories.

Jon shares how his second wife passed away from cancer. Through this painful tragedy, Jon focused on helping others and healing.

One thing Jon did on his path to emotional healing was to make new memories. The pain from the past could have easily crept into his life and made a permanent home which would either make or break relationship with God, a future mate, or any family and friends. So, Jon continued to create new memories when he met Jess.

Jon and Jess discuss the freedom of making new memories brings. Instead of being boxed in by fear and grief, throughout their relationship, he invited Jess to go to locations with him where he and his previous wife went.

Here are a few things to know about making new memories. Work this into your life naturally. When you find you are about to make a new memory, notice that and state out loud that you are making a new memory with your partner or yourself. The more you do this, the more you create a mindset of freedom and healing.

God doesn't erase our memories. He heals the pain and can make the painful memories seem dim and distant. He wants us to keep moving forward in faith with his help. Revelation 21:5 suggests this. Again, keep making more memories and begin to stop reflecting on the past. This is where fear comes in when we look at the past. Focusing on the past can definitely put a strain on a relationship. When we are interacting with each other focus on the now. This strategy alone will help you be more successful in relationship when we are faced with a make or break relationship moment.

With God's help, we can believe that the best is yet to come. We can look forward to the future when we choose to stay on the path God has prepared for us. Jon references

Psalm 55:22 (NKJV), "Cast your burden on the Lord, and he shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved." Click To Tweet

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How The Honeymoon Phase Will Last Forever?

We have always been taught that every romantic relationship goes through the honeymoon phase but then it ends and you have to move on?to something boring. We want to give you some steps to help you never get to the boring. Here's how the honeymoon phase will last forever!

In this podcast, Jon and Jess explore the question – does the honeymoon phase have to end?

To answer this age-old question, they go to the heart of the matter, fear vs. love.

Everything we do is either based on fear or love.

There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.
I John 4:18

The Power of Love In Relationship

Fear stops us and shuts us down. It takes away our creativity and joy. Fear causes us to answer sharply and makes us feel like we have to constantly look over our shoulder.

Love frees and empowers us. It makes us creative and joyful. Love gives us patience for our partners so we can respect and cherish them. So if we do things in love, we have an exponentially greater chance that the honeymoon will last forever.

When an issue arises in our relationship, it's as if a mirror is put up in front of our faces to show us that there is something to do with us that we need to take care of.

Learn more about mirrors in relationships

When we pay attention to these, we are able to deal with the cause and allow healing to enter in. After a while, the baggage drops off of us and walls against our partners come down.

As a result, we can get back to the honeymoon stage and even better.
It is possible to get to a level even more exciting than that – the stage where you can experience explosive love.

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We know and are experiencing having a marriage in which the honeymoon phase will last forever. It's all knowledge which God talks about in this verse

My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children. Hosea 4:6 Click To Tweet

EP 39 – How to Stick Together in Adversity

5 STRATEGIES TO COPE WITH ADVERSITY SURROUNDING YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Sticking Together In Adversity…

Adversity can make or break a couple if they let it.

You've heard stories and seen movies about couples that go through adversity like caring for a sick family member over a long period of time or financial struggles and other seemingly insurmountable odds. The struggle was too much and they split up. Essentially, they were not able to stick together in adversity.

We?ve also heard opposite stories of couples banding together and becoming stronger as they weather the storm together.

Episode 39 – SHOW NOTES

What is the difference? What is their secret?

Relationship with God – When we rely on God, we don't have to shoulder the burden alone and feel the intense weight of it. It is important that we look to the One greater than ourselves.
Look outward – When we go through struggle it's tempting to look inward and think about how difficult times are and what we don't have. In those times, we need to remember to look outward and see that others are going through a hard time, too. God will often ask us to help someone else when we are going through something difficult because he knows there is healing in it for us.
Treat each other with kindness – Pain and discomfort often bring out the worst in our attitudes. It's during times like this that we need to take a step back and have more patience with our loved ones, particularly or partners. It can be tempting to lash out with our words in a space that feels safe, but we need to remember that our significant other is most likely hurting as well and treat them with patience and kindness.
Communication – We need to talk with our partners regularly to maintain an understanding of what we are feeling and what we need. Reach out and ask for help when necessary. Communication helps squelch added struggles that arise from lack of talking to each other.
Equally yoked – Shoulder the burdens of the struggle together. Better yet, throw the burden on God?s shoulders and follow him together with your partner. God has the perfect plan for your life.

Final Thoughts

If you're going to stick together through adversity in your relationship or marriage, you will need to be following these tips -especially when it comes to being equally yoked.

What are some other strategies you have used that have helped you and your partner stick together during a struggle? Please leave a note in the comments below. Your message could help another couple in need.

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Why You Aren’t Happy In Your Relationship

Jon and Jess the Relationship Revivalists uncover the missing ingredient to happiness.

So often we look for happiness in our significant other, but that doesn't work for the long-term.

We need to find our happiness in God first.

Jon and Jess look back to Adam and Eve in Genesis.

Some notes about Gods character:

He loves to take what we trust him with and work it out.
He watches over us closely.
He protects us.
He is not containable.
He is love, peace, and joy. He doesn't just give these, he is.
He is the author of relationship. We learn how to have good relationships from our relationship with him.
He is our source.

Jon and Jess conclude with a reminder that ?the joy of the Lord is our strength? (Nehemiah 8:10). Joy is an important must-have to carry on.

Scriptures mentioned in this podcast:

Genesis 2:24
Genesis 3:8
Nehemiah 8:10

Jon and Jess allude to an exciting project they have been working on so look for more news to come.

7 SECRETS TO SUSTAINING A LONG, LASTING, LOVING RELATIONSHIP

Finding The God Purposed Relationship

Does God have control over all the details?

Have you found the ultimate God purposed relationship? if not, are you still looking? Perhaps you are in a relationship but not quite ready for all in commitment with your relationship.

There are 2 trains of thought that we hear all the time about what God does for us. Most of the time if it fits into our way of doing things that is the story we believe.

In today's podcast, we decided to talk about these 2 sides of the story and how only one of them makes the most sense. It's that God purposed relationship that we should all be desiring.

The story that says God isn't in control of the details

Just like the title says above, we hear all the time that God isn't in control of our destiny. The defense that is offered is that God created us with free will.

That's true to a point…

But when you know the character of God, you also know that that very free will has to do with our decisions to walk away from what God has done for us already – making things much more difficult to live a prosperous life as stated in the new testament by Jesus.

The scripture to back up the story of God having control

Now if you're looking to have a relationship that gives glory to God, you know that there is at least one verse in the bible that will support God having control over the relationships you have.

Jeremiah 29:11 says…

For I know the plans I have for you. Plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Click To Tweet

God Purposed Relationship woven into His Plans

This very verse states that He already knows the plans He has for you. Meaning he loves you so much that He's taken a vested interest in your future. His plans are not to harm you but to prosper you. It means there are boundaries in which He is allowed to bless you. If you go off and do something out of what boundaries he set forth for everyone, he can't bless you.

So, does he have control over the details in your life?

I'd say an emphatic, YES!

Just stay under his covering in all things you do and you'll get that God purposed relationship you desire.

Show Notes – Finding The God Purposed Relationship

Talking about being equally yoked in relationship means so much. it's a stress reliever because you know that you are both believing the same thing and also walking out those beliefs.

What if God had someone else in mind for me but I'm already married? (click play above to hear what the answer to this is)

Ep 35 – Are You Experiencing A Love Or Fear-Based Relationship?

Love or Fear-Based Relationship: Which One Are You In?

There are only 2 ways about every life on this planet, and it's either one of two options. The options are pretty simple and clear – love or fear-based relationship.

That's how we can simplify all of our actions and reactions.

So what is it about a fear-based relationship that will clue you into what's happening in your relationship?

In today's podcast, we are discussing just that. Are you experiencing love or fear-based relationship?

Are you consuming things that you shouldn't be? #Sex, #Drugs, #RockNRoll? Let's clear things up here on the rock n roll. There's good rock and there's just pure satanic rock.

These things that are done out of wedlock can harm your mindset and your spirit. So not to push religious practices on you, but God set things up for us to be in ONE relationship with our spouse and to commit to them for life.

Love Traits In Relationship

If you're in a relationship that you're not quite sure what is going on and the question comes up about your relationship about having a love or fear-based relationship, perhaps you should take a step back and look at things from the outside in, rather than the inside out.

In this episode, Jess describes a time when Jon did something from the bottom of his heart to show love to her. The beauty of this is that it was spontaneous and unexpected.

Remember the times you felt the most special when you asked God for something? Was it when he gave you that winning number in the lottery? or was it the time that he remembered to do those few details that you didn't quite know how they would get done?

…But He did them for you without asking, knowing you would be overjoyed that they got done.

That's when you feel the most cared for and you are off the charts happy.

We found a post that talks about love and fear-based relationships and the title just came out and says it. The title of the blog post is “Love And Fear Do Not Co-Exist P.S. I Love You!“

Ep 34 – How to Change Your Partner

It's easy to see from our own eyes that someone needs to change to become a better person. That's why we are delving into a discussion about how to change your partner.

Show Notes

Jon and Jess explore the topic of how to change your partner. One thing that we know which does not work…

Manipulation tactics.

They don't work for the long term. In fact, they will inevitably work against you at some point.

The answer to your relationship may seem counter-intuitive. We know that trying to change someone else is just an unwillingness to change yourself. So, don't try to #ChangeYourPartner #LoveWins Click To Tweet

The only way you can change the course of your relationship is to work on changing yourself, forgiveness, and trust in the Lord.

God says clearly that we have to work on ourselves and our own issues before we can help our partner with their issues.

Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?
Matt. 7:3 NIV

If we don't work on our mindset, we are in jeopardy of projecting our issues onto our partner.

Jon and Jess discuss the importance of forgiveness and trusting in the Lord when it comes to our relationships.

My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me.
John 10:27 NIV

How does this verse apply to our relationship? That's a very good question and one that we believe has only one answer.

How To Change Your Partner In A Nutshell

Listening to that voice will literally give you the answer to solving the relationship issues that you may be having. The holy Spirit is the answer and also the only one that can change your partner if that's indeed what is needed.