Starting a relationship these days seems to be the expertise for basically every person on the planet. The tricky stuff happens when you go past the “hi” and “bye” of any relationship. In this post, we will discuss different tips to make your relationship strong and last for the long haul.
I remember thinking when I was a young school teen, that it was almost a certainty to have a relationship that would only last a couple of weeks and perhaps a month or two if I was “lucky”. It seemed almost pointless to even try to get into a relationship that was meaningful.
What Does The Bible Have To Say?
Getting into a relationship as a teenager is really not the top priority nor should it be. In fact, it probably is a smart move to stay single for as long as it takes to get yourself set up financially and in a career. In 1 Corinthians 7:7-11 Paul writes that being single is great if you can handle being celibate.
Here's what he writes (Message translation)
7 Sometimes I wish everyone were single like me—a simpler life in many ways! But celibacy is not for everyone any more than marriage is. God gives the gift of the single life to some, the gift of the married life to others.
8-9 I do, though, tell the unmarried and widows that singleness might well be the best thing for them, as it has been for me. But if they can’t manage their desires and emotions, they should by all means go ahead and get married. The difficulties of marriage are preferable by far to a sexually tortured life as a single.
10-11 And if you are married, stay married. This is the Master’s command, not mine. If a wife should leave her husband, she must either remain single or else come back and make things right with him. And a husband has no right to get rid of his wife.
Now don't go thinking that its an all or nothing type of activity. I know plenty of people that can actively date a person but in fun as if they are friends. This is healthy dating, to begin within the early stages of life. The first and foremost way to make your relationship strong and last is to first become the best of friends.
So many couples enter into a relationship thinking it's just an attraction and everything else will sort of magically work themselves out.
Good for you if this is exactly how it turned out for you. However, for most this is typically how the divorce or break up started.
Creating A Strong Foundation
When you have a good foundation, you've worked on making yourself the best version of yourself that you can. Then and only then are you ready to dive into a relationship as a new adult. Many (myself included) jump into a relationship thinking it will just work and if it doesn't then I move on to the next relationship…
until that one doesn't work.
At this point, you have to start thinking what is the common denominator.
It's YOU!
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1 – Communication is key to make your relationship strong
If your relationship is not working well for you right now, perhaps the communication is not what it should be in order to have that amazing relationship.
We know that if communication is lacking there are tons of thoughts that go right through our mind condemning your partner of several acts that may or may not be true. So to communicate, no matter what the consequences are is a first step to healing any relationship.
2 – Honesty isn't just the high road
How many times have you been lied to and literally a new section of your emotional wall goes up faster than you can blink?
The same isn't true when telling the truth but that's because you must rebuild the trust with anyone you have lied to. The best policy is to never lie to anyone.
Honesty is a cornerstone to success and great relationships. After all, trust is something all people want from you, not just certain people. Taking these Tips to Make Your Relationship Strong will definitely make you a relationship winner. An example to those who want to have a successful relationship
3 – Play Time to ease the stress in any situation
You've heard the saying that goes, “those that play together stay together“.
Well this is definitely part of the equation but you must add communication and trust to this to make this saying truly come to life.
I remember having a relationship that I rather enjoyed. I would call to hang out and we'd go have fun doing what we both loved. Billiards. It was times like this that would make a relationship strong. Talking, having fun together and getting to know each other through those fun times.
It was a relationship that, looking back now, was based on desire and lust. There was friendship but nothing I could hang my hat on for an extended period of time. It was that reason that I decided to eventually cut ties with her. Though she was very fun and nice to hang around, there wasn't a mutual respect that I felt was needed to take the relationship to the next level.
So, yes, we played together but through the lack of trust, and even lack of communication this relationship didn't work out. Some people would say that this relationship was not meant to be. Sure, that may be exactly it. But what if you're already in a relationship that is now a marriage? There was a covenant made to be with this person until death do us part. Now the effort is to make your relationship strong!
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